Human lives revolve around mostly on these attitudes. People want to control each other’s life. The boss wants control over his employees, the wife wants to control her husband and vice a versa, the father wants his children to be in controlled behavior. The principal, teacher and headmaster want students in discipline. However the students, the wife, the husband, employee and children want some more freedom and more control of their own lives. The war starts. Disputes of all kinds leading to murder, suicide, divorce, mental disorders, separations, court cases have become like common cold. They appear more often than common cold. I get common cold once a year but I fight with my wife every day. How beautiful! People love to fight and love to create disputes. India-controlled Kashmir people want “Azadi.” In turn, the government of India wants control of the situations. So many lives are lost all over the world because of disputes. Lines of control turn into lines of rampage, rioting and bombings. Control, rather regulation and discipline are needed for smooth running of a system, for results and progress. However, extreme control amounting to tyranny, military rule, and oppressions leads to revolts, chaos, and curbs the growth of individuals, and in turn of the very nation.  

Seeking Approvals is another deciding factor for relationships. An employee is always seeking approval from his boss. The wife is always asking, “How is my sari?, how do I look?, in addition to, how is the ‘sabji’ today?”, even after twenty years of marriage!. Same old questions are repeatedly asked. Everyone wants approval of his or her identity. It is a good attribute in small a dose, however, some people make it as a full time engagement or past time. Then approval seeking amounts to sheer flattery. In such cases, self-esteem is very low or the greed guides them. Giving approval in suitable cases is very good, just like applauding after a good performance of an artist. Especially extreme care is needed in the case of children; there one should be very gracious but not over gracious. It is important for their mental growth.

Desire is a main force for moving the lives of people. No movement is feasible without desires. For the world to move they are needed. It is difficult to imagine a world without desires. Main desire is desire to live and survive as long as possible. Other desires are just to support it. That is why people are afraid of poverty because extreme poverty leads to death. Due to this ‘will to survive’, the people go mad, that is why they cross the limits and start amassing wealth that could last for hundreds of years. Society and nations suffer a lot due to such foolishness. Many more crimes are happening due other desires but the main root is that of desire to live. Ambitions, will to progress, making money, having children, to be famous, to have power and so on are the different names of one basic desire (will). All extremes must be avoided to be happy.


                                 Fire of desire

 Its red hot fumes, originating from the valley of ignorance

moving all around, to warm the body of a benign man.

 Ignited more intensely by the follies of human actions

entering the human mind, to leave it burnt out.

 Creating the sensation in the soul, giving temporary pleasures

gushing hotter and hotter, to engulf the wisdom of the benign man.

 From: ‘Poetry of Life’, JIRARA, Trafford Publishing, USA, 2009).


Here is a beautiful poem about one of the many faces of life by Dr. J. R. Raol. In there the author describes how filthy and useless thoughts enter our minds and how hard it is to remove them just like dust gathered in a closed house for many days. Well one cannot stop the dust or thoughts entering in their respective areas but one can at least try to learn how to deal with them.Thoughts are next stage to action.Therefore in Rigveda 7.1.1 it is stated that “Let noble thoughts emanate from us and spread to all directions“. So, enjoy the poem below,

89.         DUST 
I opened my room and found dust everywhere on my chair, my table
on my books, in and out of books
in the old computer keyboard
in the drawers, in and out of cups
on my tea-kettle
dust and dust gathered everywhere.
Less did I realize that I have now visited my room after so many days
after so many months and years
The dust had free time to gather
from far and near places
like the thoughts gathering in my mind
from anywhere and even nowhere.
The dust entered my mind as
the thoughts enter so effortlessly into my mind
I became impatient to wipe out
all the dust from the room, its objects
When the job was done
the dust had really entered my mouth, lungs
might have travelled gradually into my inner system and
where else I do not know.
The dust can come out by sneezing
by cleaning and coughing
Can the dirty thoughts come out
so easily from our minds?
by cleaning, cleansing or by coughing
– I am not sure
For it takes seconds for filthy thoughts to enter
but ages to come out and
never without damaging
the soul and the purity of mind and heart.
By JIRARA (From ‘Sandy Bonds’, 2009)

life is Evil: turn it into Joy

Let us understand more about Life.Every one wants life,and then more life,and then a good life.What is a good life? Well, every one has his own ideas for living a good life. Some want money, power, good wife,good children, a car,bungalow and so on, the list is endless. Some may want fame. Many want love. So what is all this? In one word is it all about “wants” and “desires?”. for every wish that is satisfied there remain twenty that are denied. Desire is infinite, fulfilment is limited. so long as we are subject to willing, we can never have lasting happiness. Now, let us see  the opposite story of life. Imagine if “Ram Rajya” is established, and if every evil were removed, and all problems and strifes and struggle are totally ended, boredom would become as intolerable as pain. The more successful we become, the more we are bored. Even if yoy increase the knowledge there is no solution. You increase more sorrow.  Also, life is a big war, everywhere in nature we see compition, conflict, struggle , defeat and victory. In short we are always unhappy either satisfied or unsatisfied. We are unhappy married, and unmarried we are unhappy.We are unappy when alone, and unhappy in society.What a tragedy To be happy, one must be as ignorant as youth.Because death for it is too far away. Has not seen the fruitlessness of fulfilment of desire. At the end we meet our great friend death or enemy? It is playing with us as a cat with a helpless mouse. The fear of death is the final cause of religion. So, many talk of immortality. Life after death and Atman never dies. Who knows? Poor fellow goes to the grave not knowing anything. Some go through so much pain that they go mad. Madness comes as a way to avoid the memory of suffering. The final refuge is suicide. Here at last thought and imagination win over the will or instinct. But nature does not care many more births happen. life and will move on, momentarily defeating the  death. Who is final winner? The man who turns the evil life in to joy.



Common wealth games are on with great zeal and enthusiasm. Athletes are putting in their best to achieve gold medals for mother India. What media did before the event we know it all; it was their part of duty and business. Now everything is going very smoothly except for stray incidences. In the middle of all this popular Baba Ramdev has come up with Swabhimanyatra and is giving new terminology for CWG. Of course, he is not against the games and the athletes but he is against the leadership of queen of England. The carrying of queen’s “masal” reminds him of our “Gulami” and all that. I do not know why he is suffering from the inferiority complex. Now we are independent and a very successful one of the largest democracy in the world. We are number two in the medal tally in this CWG 2010 hosted by us only. Do we tell our children and remind them very often that we as a nation were not independent. We had probably deserved it. Times and capabilities do change, forget the past Baba and move ahead. Our all youngsters have studied history and they know what had happened. We are not here to hate our past rulers but learn from the mistakes and be a strong nation in every respect. I do not see any shade of “gulami” in the eyes of our brave athletes and sports persons.instead; I see patriotism for the nation.



Sage Ashtavakra was son of rishi Kahod and was born with many handicaps but has acquired an important place in Indian ancient history because of his supreme knowledge about universal truths. According to me he is the man who said it all. King Janak who himself had very good knowledge was eager to know it all from this smart teenager, if I can say so. Here are few excerpts from the book by Mr. Bart Marshall. Enjoy and think.

1: Instruction on Self-Realization

Janaka said:



How is Knowledge to be achieved?

Detachment acquired,

Liberation attained?

Ashtavakra said:


To be free,

shun the experiences of the senses

like poison.

Turn your attention to

forgiveness, sincerity, kindness, simplicity, truth.


You are not earth, water, fire or air.

Nor are you space.

Liberation is to know yourself

as Awareness alone—

the Witness of these.


Abide in Awareness

with no illusion of person.

You will be instantly free and at peace.


You have no caste or duties.

You are invisible, unattached, formless.

You are the Witness of all things.

Be happy.


Right and wrong, pleasure and pain,

exist in mind only.

They are not your concern.

You neither do nor enjoy.

You are free.


You are the Solitary Witness

of All That Is,

forever free.

Your only bondage is not seeing This.


The thought: “I am the doer”

is the bite of a poisonous snake.

To know: “I do nothing”

is the wisdom of faith.

Be happy.


A single understanding:

“I am the One Awareness,”

consumes all suffering

in the fire of an instant.

Be happy.


You are unbounded Awareness—

Bliss, Supreme Bliss–

in which the universe appears

like the mirage of a snake in a rope.

Be happy.


It is true what they say:

“You are what you think.”

If you think you are bound you are bound.

If you think you are free you are free.

3.1 & others

Having realized yourself as One,

being serene and indestructible,

why do you want wealth?

Having realized yourself as pure Awareness,

as beautiful beyond description,

how can you remain a slave to lust?

Strange that one abiding in the Absolute,

intent on freedom,

should be vulnerable to lust

and weakened by amorous pastimes.

Strange that one who is unattached

to the things of this world and the next,

who can discriminate between the transient and the timeless,

who yearns for freedom,

should yet fear the dissolution of the body.

Whether acclaimed or tormented

the serene sage abides in the Self.

He is neither gratified nor angered.


Well, at least one can try to understand what “charcha” took place between the king and the wise sage.